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GRATITUDE – THE HOTTEST AREA OF NEUROSCIENCE?

March 27, 2017 24 Comments

broccoli soup

Every now and then I’m made aware of what a huge privilege it is to be alive. However, like most of us, I spend the bulk of my time caught up in the hum drum of daily life. But not anymore.  Two weeks’ ago, on my way home from London Book Fair, I collapsed in the street.  My head slammed so hard against the pavement I fractured my skull and was unconscious for over an hour.  During that time I was ambulanced to hospital, scanned, monitored, injected and wired up to drips and other contraptions.

I was lucky. My friend and neighbour found me within minutes, the ambulance came quickly and I live within a five minute drive of an excellent hospital.

My head injuries have left me feeling disconcertingly dizzy and unsteady. So I’ve spent most of my convalescing time reading and thinking (although even that was difficult in the early days).  When unable to read or think I looked out of the window at all the people walking, running, striding. And I had an overwhelming urge to open my window and shout at them, to remind them of what a privilege it is to be able to walk freely – without pain, without dizziness, without fear. I didn’t shout at them.  Instead I tried to fathom how I can hold on to this feeling of appreciation, of gratitude, when I’m better.  Because it’s important, and it becomes more important the older we get.  And those of us that have it appear to live longer and healthier, more fulfilled lives. Bear with me. I’m coming to the science…

But I have this niggling feeling that as soon as I’ve recovered I’ll revert to my pre-head injury days: fretting about the state of the world, fuming at the injustice of life, stressing over the fact that none of my labour-saving devices work, huffing and puffing over my three teenage daughters – and so on. Of course, some of this is important.  The outrage of injustice is a powerful motivator for change.  But perhaps we need to keep it in balance. Perhaps, as we rage against the unfairness of life or wade through piles of laundry (or whatever makes us rant and complain), we also need to remember how lucky we are to be able to do these things, to remind ourselves of the privilege of life.

Numerous reports suggest that grateful people experience fewer aches and pains, are happier and less depressed, are more resilient, sleep better (yes, really!), and have greater self-esteem.  According to Amy Morin in Forbes Magazine, ‘being thankful throughout the year could have tremendous benefits on your quality of life. In fact, gratitude may be one of the most overlooked tools that we all have access to every day.’  Read a summary of studies into gratitude at http://bit.ly/2pjjsZk.

More recently, a brain-scanning study from Indiana University suggests that making one’s gratitude tangible (ie writing it down in a journal or thank-you letter, for example) has results that endure for months afterwards.  The same study found that the more you practice gratitude, the more attuned you are to it and the more you can enjoy its benefits. A brilliant article in the New Yorker magazine last year (http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/01/how-expressing-gratitude-change-your-brain.html) analysed this study, suggesting we think of our brain ‘as having a sort of gratitude muscle that can be exercised and strengthened.’ Apparently, using our ‘gratitude brain muscle’ causes a cascade effect, in which others are then able to feel more grateful.  And the more of us that feel gratitude, the more humane and empathetic society becomes (allegedly).  It’s a lovely idea.

A 2009 series of studies using brain MRIs found that the part of the brain known as the hypothalamus  (which regulates a range of bodily functions from our metabolism to hunger, growth and sleep) is activated when we think grateful thoughts or do something altruistic. Scientists don’t yet understand why this happens, but it does. It’s not inconceivable that one day people with sluggish metabolisms, for example, might be encouraged to undertake gratitude exercises.

One of the findings I particularly like, right now, is that people who feel grateful recover more quickly from trauma. My fall (and its repercussions) were traumatic but I feel as though I’m making a good recovery.  Is this because my brain is flooded with gratitude? I like to think so. I’m feeling more grateful now than I’ve felt in a long time.  Grateful to be alive, grateful that soon I’ll be able to walk unaided again, grateful to have a fully-functioning (ahem) brain – and hugely grateful to all the friends and family that rallied to my support with their kind words, cards, flowers, chocolate, foodie bags, help with dog walking, school runs, childcare, medical advice and so on. You know who you are – thank you!

So I’ll end with a word on gratitude exercises.  Yes, I know this doesn’t sound at all European.  But if you’ve clicked through on any of the links above you’ll have read that it’s the making explicit of one’s gratitude that lodges it in the brain. That doesn’t mean you have to keep a rose-tinted diary of platitudes (although why not?).  How about writing a thank you card and spending a few minutes finding the right words instead of dashing off the usual clichés?  Me? I’m going to open my window and shout at all the passers-by: they need to know how lucky they are and how grateful I am…

The soup below (more of a puree really) is a variation of a Gordon Ramsay recipe. It’s cheap, wholesome and all my children like it.  Even better, it contains only three ingredients and takes less than ten minutes. I serve it with a choice of toppings (olive oil, lemon wedges, Parmesan and slithers of sun-dried tomato in the pic) although Gordon recommends toasted flaked almonds and discs of goat’s cheese (also delicious). My kids are perfectly happen with grated cheddar and croutons. I don’t need to tell you the benefits of eating broccoli…

BROCCOLI SOUP (serves 6)

  • 3 heads of broccoli, chopped (stems and all)
  • Water or marigold veg stock – just enough to cover the broccoli
  • 1 tsp sea salt

Cover the florets and stems with the boiling water or stock.  Simmer for five minutes or until just soft. Blend everything until smooth.  Season to taste.

Serve. Bon appetite!

Annabel

  • Meal Types: Dinner, Family, Soups and Salads
  • Conditions: Ageing, Depression, general, Insomnia, Mood
  • Ingredients: Broccoli
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Comments

  1. Sally says

    March 27, 2017 at 8:09 am

    Sorry to hear about the fall. Wonderful post though and very inspirational xx

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      March 27, 2017 at 6:37 pm

      Thanks for your kind words, Sally!

      Reply
  2. Diana says

    March 27, 2017 at 8:26 am

    What a story, you’ve really been in the wars. Hope you’ll be out of the woods soon!
    Thanks for the fascinating links – you might like to look at http://gratefulness.org/ – they send you a daily reminder about gratitude / gratefulness…

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      March 27, 2017 at 6:36 pm

      Thanks for the link – that looks perfect and exactly what I need. In the meantime I’m having a stab at the journal idea (more scraps of paper by my bed!)…

      Reply
  3. Lexi Revellian says

    March 27, 2017 at 9:04 am

    Brilliant post – I shall be re-reading this from time to time. Thank you, and best wishes for a full recovery with insights intact.

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      March 27, 2017 at 6:34 pm

      Thanks Lexi, it’s so nice when science backs up a gut feeling. I’ll write on it again – if only to keep reminding myself!

      Reply
  4. peter abbs says

    March 27, 2017 at 9:36 am

    I love your comments on gratitude! It is absolutely convincing that the more we give, the more we receive. To find the positive is to animate the positive. Many Buddhists work from this assumption, particularlt the Tibetan Buddhists.
    Keep moving forward, but as I say gently, gently. Dadx
    Must try the soup!

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      March 27, 2017 at 6:33 pm

      Yes, buddhism looking very attractive at the moment. Perhaps you’d like to write a post (possibly with a recipe) for us? x

      Reply
  5. Jan says

    March 27, 2017 at 10:59 am

    My goodness, what an event! I am grateful that you are ok! I have enjoyed the information I’ve read in the K&C posts and your post about your frightening collapse reminded me of a lady who died at a respectable old age who had had two particularly awful events occur within her family. Either of the events would have been cause for most of us to sink beneath the waves of life, but she bobbed up and gave back fiercely but with much love and gratitude to the life that she had and the community in which she lived. She made a lasting impression on her town and the people there who also remember with gratitude. I shall re-read this post and keep it in mind. Thank you for bobbing up and I wish you health and contentment.

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      March 27, 2017 at 6:31 pm

      Thanks Jan, that’s an inspirational story. I love these old ladies that never give up!

      Reply
  6. Estelle says

    March 27, 2017 at 12:01 pm

    Congrats for finding the courage to be grateful instead of bitter about your injury. Continue your healing journey. Love your writing.

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      March 27, 2017 at 6:29 pm

      Thanks Estelle! Much appreciated …

      Reply
  7. Shari Garretson says

    March 27, 2017 at 9:18 pm

    Thank you, Annabel, for your edifying share, which I am going to act on!

    I was the lady who rushed up to you right after your author talk at Shakespeare and Co. in Paris last month, and basically asked, “How do you do it (with a family, eating healthy, etc.)? I got your book, which I am looking forward to reading, and am truly grateful for the easy, healthy, recipes — with this broccoli soup recipe, you’ve bested my platinum standard of 5 ingredients, 3 steps.

    You’ll be in my prayers as you recover,

    Shari from New Jersey

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      March 28, 2017 at 7:41 am

      Oh Hi Shari – how nice to her from you. Yes, i remember you! I loved that night! And I’m so with you on ingredients. Any recipe with more than 7 ingredients is too much for me. Do share any favorites from your own platinum collection?

      Reply
  8. Pam Hayward says

    March 28, 2017 at 6:52 pm

    What a lovely article on gratitude! When we were young our mother used to suggest ( strongly ) that we played ‘the glad game’ like Pollyanna in the film of the same name. Through gritted teeth we did, but I think that intervention when very young has made me in to an optimistic healthy person who hardly ever complains about aspects of my own life. I am very grateful for my own health and that of my immediate family.

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      March 28, 2017 at 7:05 pm

      Thanks, Pam. Yes, the term my grandmother used was ‘count your blessings’. I loved Pollyanna – but none of my daughters had the same response. I think she is seen as quaintly outdated now. Bring back Pollyanna!

      Reply
  9. Georgian Benta from The Gratitude Podcast says

    April 7, 2017 at 1:49 pm

    Absolutely loved your article Annabel! It’s such a great reminder to all of us. Thank you for taking the time to write it and to at so much documentation!

    If you’re open I would like to give your urge to remind people of their possibility of being grateful, a voice, by being a guest on The Gratitude Podcast.

    What do you say?

    I might need to add that I’m the founder and host of The Gratitude Podcast. 🙂 You can find it on iTunes and it features people like you that have a message to share with the world about gratitude and it’s importance in our life.

    Keep up the great work, Annabel! 🙂

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      April 20, 2017 at 5:30 pm

      That sounds very interesting. Funnily, this has been one of our most read and most shared posts. I’d be delighted to do anything on your Podcast. I’m planning on writing another post on Gratitude and happy to share your work once I’ve had a chance to review. Thanks so much!

      Reply
      • Georgian says

        May 3, 2017 at 7:49 am

        Thank YOU for accepting and for being to open and generous! 🙂

        I’ve sent you a PM on Facebook with my availability for the interview to make things easier.

        Reply
  10. Thomasin Chinnery says

    April 27, 2017 at 6:59 pm

    Annabel,
    What a beautiful and informative post. Thank you. I have been sending gratitude messages to friends and family since I read it!
    As for broccoli soup, my kids are also fans. I usually fry and onion and garlic to start, then add the broccoli and stock. So 5 ingredients! And I cheat by buying frozen diced onions and chopped garlic (is there Picard in London? This high-end frozen food shop is every French cook’s secret weapon for cooking shortcuts)
    Thomasin

    Reply
    • Annabel Abbs says

      April 27, 2017 at 8:29 pm

      Thanks, Thomasin. So glad you liked it and that you’re a broccoli soup fan. I love the idea of ready chopped onions… what a brilliant idea! No Picard near me. But I wish there was… market opportunity for someone!

      Reply

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